“So when we found that we could not make sense,
well you said that we would still be friends”
why breaking up sucks
breaking up means losing your best friend. the only difference with this loss, is that there will be no possibility for “found”. that person will be gone and your relationship will forever be a memory. a past. no present.
it means having to start over again. from scratch. trying to decide who you are, trying to find the person you were before. trying to reconcile that with who you are now and… realizing that you are an individual “i” now. no longer a part of an “us”.
there is no longer any certainty in your plans. friday evenings full of infinite possibilities.
it’s having to make yourself shiny and whole again for the next person to come along. to create a shiny new veneer from the leftover parts that can potentially be salvaged.
when people say “we’ll still be friends”, it’s a sick joke. because you go from being the most important person in their life to an acquaintance. an awkward acquaintance at that.
because… loss is hard.
when people break up, they tend to cut off all ties in an attempt to move on with their lives. or… at least some semblance of moving on. because the other party has to start over too.
and experience has taught us that while time may not necessarily heal, the pain will lessen. the ache will decrease, and after a while, it goes away.
so people let go.
because forgetting is easier than remembering.
“You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn’t catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know”